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Love Your Struggles


images-1If you’re like me, it can sometimes feel hard to love and accept yourself when you make a mistake. I was shocked when, years ago, a Presentation Skills client began a diatribe with the words “I condemn myself for…” I had never heard someone treat themselves with such harshness.

WHY do we presenters, trainers, and facilitators sometimes berate ourselves with words we might never use for another person? This year, resolve to be kinder to yourself. Seemingly unrelated, your presentation and training skills will benefit from a boost in self care.

5 Quickie Self-Care Techniques for Presenters, Trainers, and Facilitators

1. Know That It Was Bigger for You Than For Them.

If you get flustered or make a mistake during a presentation, realize that you’re taking it about 90% more seriously than anyone else in the room. Relax and move on.

2. When You’re Done, You’re Done.

After a presentation or training, I always wash my hands. This ritual helps me transition from the “Intensified Me” mode into a more relaxed place.

3. Give Yourself (or Another) a Treat

Whether it’s a special cup of coffee, a turkey sandwich, a run or a movie, give yourself a reward for the energy you spent and the exposure you experienced. Double your good feelings by treating a co-worker or friend.

4. Sing Loudly and Hit Those High Notes

If you’re stuck in a car after an event, crank up songs you love. Research shows that simply listening to familiar sounds can “up” your mood to the point of goose bumps.

5. Get a Few Hugs

When you get home, improve your oxytocin, serotonin, and heart rate with some hugs from a family member (including your pets).

Resolve to love and accept yourself no matter what. As the yogis say, we are all perfect inside. A few gaffes will never change that.


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